Learnt today that of the several lifestyle habits that age you most quickly, one was rather unexpected - Love deficit.
The culprits that will most quickly age you and negatively affect your health are:
1. Poor diet
2. Lack of exercise
3. Stress and worry
4. Exhaustion
5. Unhappiness
6. Lack of love
7. Toxic overload
8. Blockages and congestion of the transportation highways within our bodies.
Looks like one must hasten the look for love.
Strangely an MSN discussion this morning with someone falling in love resulted in more revelations in a field which I thought I was becoming an expert in. But on a pretext of giving advice, I shall approach this topic.
We all know the term or the Oscar winning 1955 old-fashioned movie - "Love is a many Splendored Thing". But surely we should be aware of the pit falls of falling in love.
This is my own list of the pit falls:
1) When hearts are entwined together, it is inevitable when your worlds get revolved around each other. When every little word or remark seem to make a whole lot of matter to you. Be it, "Shall we go jogging?" will spur side connotations like "does she/he mean I am getting too pudgy for my own good"...and for the lady, it might evoke a million more questions and senseless thinking. This over thinking effect bundles up fear, love, hatred all together.
2) Independence somehow seems lost when couples depend more on each other. I believe in the strength and growth between couples as individuals from the togetherness. But an over dependence on one will likely lead to a tipping of scales which eventually will lead to more unbalance in a basket of fears, nitpicking and nagging, and finally a miserable subterfuge of love.
3) Love can be very powerful, but it is another weakness you will inherit. To be emotionless in a relationship is not being in love at all. By being truly in love, you will slowly lose sight of logic; and passion will soon engulf your mortal mind, thinking you can fly or live on mere air and love. And that itself presents your very weakness of not thinking straight. You have classic examples of women becoming drug couriers unknowingly and men donating their CPF pensions to sweet young foreign migrants which somehow disappears as fast as their money evaporates.
4) Love can be easily misunderstand and mistaken for many things. From companionship to flirting to sex, these often come under the disguise for love and the eventual outcome might be just heartbreaking fragments which can be unforgettable baggage for a long time.
5) Time heals all wounds, but sometimes time can be a victim of love. While heartbreaks might be healed over time, it works against youth which is quite detrimental to the prospect of falling in love. When one is young, somehow love seems refreshing and easily obtained - puppy loves all around you. Why is that so? Well, when one gets older, cynicism and wisdom gets in the way. We all know it is all too wiser than to chase after what is impossible, and somehow that limits the way we pursue love. And love somehow enjoys defying being rational and when we completely disregard reasons and rules, love comes a knocking to the irrational and hopelessly lost.
Youth cannot know how age thinks and feels. But old men are guilty if they forget what it was to be young."
J. K. Rowling
May we always remember how love once was and pursue it with faith and good hope.
